Just right after a break-up, your head might be filled with different thoughts. You could be asking yourself what you did wrong for that romance to have ended. Maybe you are thinking of ways to get back together. Or maybe you are still hung-up from the pain that your mind is so blank. Nevertheless, this period in your life would probably where you are most vulnerable to make stupid mistakes. If you are still confused, in a daze and distracted, just make sure you cross out these things you should never do after a break-up.
Here are the possible scenarios if you have decided to run to your ex’s mom after your break-up. Either his/her mom liked you a lot and she would confront her kid why he/she broke your heart. If this happened, your ex would probably hate you more. Another outcome would be, his/her mom would be hypocritically comforting you while secretly celebrating the thought the you have broken up. In the end, blood is thicker that water so whatever effort you try to do to win the sympathy of his/her parents, you just can’t.
2. DO NOT ENGAGE IN A ONE NIGHT STAND WITH A RANDOM STRANGER
This time you would feel rebellious and filled with desire to get back on your ex so going on a bar to pick up a random stranger seems like the perfect the idea. Spare yourself the possible STD’s and cross this from your list of things-to-do. It would not make you feel better in the morning because you would only find yourself thinking about your ex more while screwing another. Plus it is quite offensive for any guy or gal you have picked up when your thinking of another while doing the act. Casual s3x would still have some degree of respect so be aware.
3. DO NOT MAKE A LIFE DECISION
At least not immediately after the break up. Plans to move to another city or town just because you have lost the love of your life should not be considered (again, for now). If you want to turn down a promotion because it was the dream of you both back then, get back to your senses. At this point, you might not be thinking straight. So delay any life plans that you have and focus first on getting yourself back together.
4. DO NOT STALK YOUR EX
Your mind and heart might have the longing to see your ex right after the break up. You might want to know if he/she is doing just fine or if he/she is also heartbroken like you. You probably plan to go to his/her hang out, home or workplace but this is a very bad and stupid idea. If you see your ex with another person, your jealousy fueled with pain might burst and a confrontation might be unavoided. Again, this would only make him/her hate you more. Also, you should also reserve a little self-respect to not do this deed.
5. DO NOT JUMP INTO ANOTHER RELATIONSHIP AT ONCE
There is a reason why some love experts advice to give some time before engaging into another relationship. Most people would speculate that you are just using the new relationship to cover your wounded ego. Of course, given the benefit of the doubt, it might not be the case. But the fact of the matter is, you should allow yourself to learn from the previous relationship before jumping into a new one. You should realize first that you are completely over your ex so you could avoid hurting another person. In another case, you could also have this want to make your ex jealous so he/she would think of getting back to you. Spare other people and yourself the hurt. If you are thinking of doing this, it is completely idiotic so you should halt!
6. DO NOT COMMIT SUICIDE
This is the ultimate idiotism of all. For one, your ex would never have the chance to get back with you because you are dead. Secondly, you would never have the chance to meet and be with someone way better that your ex if you take away your life. That relationship, whatever the reason it has ended, does not define your life. Consider yourself lucky that you get the another opportunity to start a new romance.
Pain makes us do stupid things. Some we would regret the next day and some we would simply want to erase from our memory. But in real life, there are some things that we could not just regret or undo. Being in pain and loneliness is not an excuse to screw up your entire life. You would get over it soon. Just like the millions of people who had been through this stage and successfully found the new love of their lives and living happily. Just hang in there and, yes, avoid doing those most stupid things!
You may want to read my personal experience of "My Ruined Relationship"
